They say you’re a toddler now. Although it’ll be hard for me to not think of you as a baby anymore, it’s probably more fitting since you’ve never been into the baby thing anyway. You are in-de-pe-nd-ent and always on the go. Patience will be key for all of us during this time as your body catches up to your brain. You want to feed yourself, but aren’t that good at it, so there are big messes… but messes can be cleaned. You want to read your flip books by yourself, but get too excited, so sometimes the flap rips off… but we can buy some tape. You want to move around, but sometimes you go too fast, so you fall on your face… but we can put down more rugs and get lots of bandaids. I will try my best to let you do things on your own so you can learn and grow, and hopefully we can get through with minimal damage.
The subtitle of this post should be “what is that?” It is all you say. And you say it 500 times a day while pointing at different objects. Now in different ways… what’s that, what is that, what is it, whats this. The ‘that’ has gotten really long and drawn out. I spend the majority of my days saying “dog. fan. light. fan. still the fan. light switch. that’s the fan again.” (maybe this means we’ll escape the classic “why?” stage… probably not)
I couldn’t possibly explain how amazing this past year has been. It’s almost as if your one year mark is my one year mark as well. Like there was no before. This past year seems to have gone so quickly, yet so much happened. You went from a black and white photo that people told me was a picture of the inside of my enormous belly to a smiling, head banging, busy little boy.
This weekend we head to Wheatland. Your first festival. You won’t remember this or anything from your first year. But hopefully this sets the foundation of being a family and doing things together.
Sight: Oskar loves reading books all by himself. He looks back and forth and turns the pages while babbling away. Its painfully cute. Some favorites of late are Bobby Bear’s ABC, A Book of Sleep, and Happy Baby ABC.
Smell: We use disposable diapers at night and just tried this brand. I love them. Natural, no leaks, and no rash. And for wipes I want to try these.
Sound: Finally tried a sound machine app over the weekend while we were staying at my mother-in-laws. His cousins were also in town and the naps weren’t lasting very long. We played brown noise from some website on computer speakers. Seemed to do the trick!
Taste: We’re getting crazy over here. Oskar drank milk over the week and ate a scrambled egg for dinner last night.
Touch: He’s not walking on his own yet. But he may be the fastest crawler around. The knees of his pants are really taking a beating.
No one seems to want to acknowledge that you are 11 months, it is always “almost 1.” Which yes, this is true, you are almost one year old, but I don’t want this month to be a countdown. I want to celebrate THIS month and THIS age. Alright, alright… I may be a little sensitive about the upcoming birthday, but you have a few weeks of 11 months left, so lets focus on that and forget about all that mushy mumbo jumbo I’ll end up writing next month.
You point at everything saying “whasat” and sometimes “whasis” so I’m obviously convinced you mean “what is that?” and “what is this?” You like your toys just fine, but they are no match for your dad’s phone charger and Mischa’s water bowl. Thankfully, these two things have not been played with together. But you’re quick and I’m often distracted, so it’s only a matter of time.
There is a lot of walking with your IKEA cart, giving kisses, screaming as the cat runs by, and annoying the dog. We take a walk every morning and often see deer, and recently the baby deer. It’s so exciting when you spot them all by yourself and get really excited.
You are a wild child, Oskar. Your smiles and silliness make up for the exhaustion and chaos. Being a work at home mama is the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but anytime I feel like it’s all too much I think about how lucky I am to spend my days with you… and then I look into halfday daycare.
Sight: Sometimes I let Oskar join me in watching my guilty pleasure…. So You Think You Can Dance.
Smell: When we use disposables, I’ve been using these wipes. I really like how soft and not overly soapy they are.
Sound: Loves playing his xylophone and turns everything and anything into a drum, just like his dad.
Taste: Watch out, this kid wants to steal your snacks. Pretzels, veggie chips, whatever it is, Oskar wants it.
Touch: The past few nights I’ve noticed as Oskar lays down to sleep he grabs and cuddles his blanket, it’s so sweet.
Getting ready to welcome a baby? I’ve put together this list of what we have used and loved or wished we had (for the first 10 months). We tried to take a fairly minimalist parenting approach. The theory was to start with less and add more if we felt it was needed. So you won’t find any noise machines or whoozits here, but it is still pretty thorough.
I tend to be a little OCD with this stuff. When we were getting our baby registry needed, I created a spreadsheet (nerd alert) broken down into categories and then marked where I would register for it, if I was getting it as a hand-me-down from family or friends, or already owned it. Maybe I can find a cool way to share that with you as well! We registered at Target and Amazon, Target is especially nice for those people who want to go to a store and get something – but there are usually some great local store options if most your family or friends live in town. In Ann Arbor I like to shop at The Little Seedling and Elephant Ears, both have registry options. Also Craiglist is a major go-to, but hard to use when it comes to registering. Otherwise the Amazon Baby Registry is awesome. Here’s our [edited post baby] baby registry…
Changing Pad & Covers - We have a changing pad on a dresser, it works just fine. More than one cover is totally necessary, especially if you have a boy… Crib - This is our crib and it’s solid as a rock and super cute too. Mattress Organic Cotton Mattress Pad Crib Sheets - We actually have ones from Target, but I’m not too impressed. Even though they are “all the same” some fit and others don’t. It makes no sense. Plus they are pretty rough. I think springing for a couple good ones and using “crappy” ones when you need to is a better idea. Crib Blanket or Quilt Bassinet or Co-Sleeper - Oskar slept in our room for the first 3-4 months. Makes night feedings a heck of a lot easier and I loved being able to see my sweet sleeping baby. Swaddle Blankets – These are worth every penny. We still use them as a light blanket, changing pad, cover for the crib/car seat during naps, everything. Woombie Cocoon Swaddle – Oskar hated or broke out of every swaddling contraption we tried (and we tried a lot). This won hands down. He was able to move more freely and get his arms by his chest but still be snug. Hamper Hangers
Even though we use cloth, I still kept/keep disposables on hand for when laundry gets backed up or we are out and about or out of town. Our big ol baby left the hospital in size 1. So if you have a family history of substantially sized babes, I would skip or go light on the newborn size.
ERGObaby Baby Carrier – Use everyday. No joke. Would die without it. Wrap – Saved my life when he was a newborn and used a lot for the first 6 months. Sling – I love my sling. SO easy throwing on to run errands or around the house. Having a harder time with it now that he is bigger, so I need to go back to the store and have them help me adjust it properly. Stroller – This could be a post all on it’s own. Strollers are very specific to you and your needs, and as my sister-in-law warned, you’ll end up with more than one. We have the Britax B-Ready and the phil&teds Smart Stroller. The Britax was our first, I really wanted the UPPAbaby Vista but a friend recommended the Britax and it has worked out well. The Smart Stroller I got recently at a warehouse sale and it is the one that stays in the car now. After going to Chicago we really wanted something slimmer, lighter, and easier. So far we’ve liked it, but the nontelescoping handle is a little (a lot) short for a tall person (to be fair, Nick is 6’6″ – most things are too short). In the beginning the features we enjoyed were: clipping in the carseat, the deep recline, ability to face in and out and switch between the two easily, big sunshade, big basket, and a cup holder… of course. Craigslist has great used options, though you can’t register there, you can always return and buy used. Infant Car Seat – We were lucky enough to have one passed down to us. Convertible Car Seat – The research process to pick out a carseat was insane. I am happy with ours, but my first choice was this one. Travel Crib – We went without for a while, but so happy we have one. It makes traveling so much easier and is great for when we are at a friends house late. Plus this one you can wear as a backpack and only weighs 13 lbs. As a tip, have your baby nap it in at home sometimes before you try it out on the road. Car Seat Cover – A must for the infant carseat in the winter. Bouncer - A good bouncer is the best thing in the world. I also have friends who swear by the Rock ‘n Play Sleeper
I almost exclusive breastfeed, so not the best person for advice on pumps, storage systems, or bottles.
Baby Monitor – We have one and never use it. Trust me, if that kid is crying, you don’t need a monitor to hear him. But if you have multiple levels or it’s good weather and you want to sit outside, I think it could be useful. And personally, we think the video monitor is a tad overkill. Nosefrida – It seems gross, but it’s awesome. Just do it. Trust me. Don’t forget extra filters Thermometer Nail Clippers – We have the scissors and I don’t like them, but a ton of people do. I would get both and find out which works best for you.
Bath Sponge – I took baths with Oskar until he was old enough to sit up on his own. I just used the sponge to lay him on while I got out or for the occasional sink bath. Cheap and a HUGE space saver. I don’t know where I would have kept a giant plastic tub. Towels – Most hooded towels are too small and not absorbent. I would get a few nice ones or just use a regular towel that you keep separately. Washcloths Shampoo
Most of these aren’t main necessities, but nice additions. Things we really loved or maybe wished we had.
I’m in love… no, obsessed, with Olivia Palermo’s wedding day look. From head to toe. The pony tail, make-up, cashmere sweater, shorts, tulle skirt, and blue shoes. Amazing. I loved my dress, but this makes me want a do-over. What do you think, would you do a bridal look like this?
As I sit and watch you play it blows my mind. It doesn’t seem that long ago your day mostly consisted of sitting in a bouncy seat. Now you are all over the place. Crawling quickly towards the fridge any time the door opens, chasing the cat, pulling toys out of the cabinet, climbing on the coffee table (that’s new as of today).
In places where you are familiar and comfortable you are a loud, chatty, active little boy. But in new spots or around people you are much more reserved and easily shaken. An overly excited greeting from a stranger will have put a pout on your face mighty quick. I bet since it’s summer and you’re getting out of the house more often you’ll start to open up a bit more.
You are so smiley. Lots of variations too. You have a sneaky smirk, a sweet smile, a crazy smile, a toothy smile. I love them all. Just the other night I thought about how your Papa and I probably smile so much more now that you’re around. So thank you for your smiles and ours.
This past week you and I took a little road trip and had our first camping trip while your Dad was out of town. You did great! Even though it rained almost the whole time, had major storms at night, and our car didn’t start the next day. You slept right through the storms and the rain didn’t bother you a bit as you and your buddy Peter played. We have a few more trips planned already and I’m so excited!
Sight: We finally hung the book ledge and now Oskar can pick out his book before bed each night. He is OBSESSED with Where’s Spot. So much so that I have to hide or else it must be read 152 times. Also, haven’t they figured out flap books that’s flaps can’t be ripped off?
Smell: Still big fans of this oil, but would love an everyday lotion for him. Preferably natural, light & scent free. Any suggestions?
Sound: Oskar has started listening pretty well – as in hearing what we are saying, and knowing what we are saying, but not always obeying. There is a lot of “not in your mouth.” I’m trying not to use the word NO and instead be more descriptive or give an alternative, like “that’s not your toy, here play with this.” I feel like if I am just saying NO all day it’ll lose its meaning and I’d rather reserve it for urgent moments.
Taste: Feeding himself is preferred these days and while it works out well with some foods, it doesn’t work so well with others and he ends up pretty frustrated. I’ve been trying to give him a combination at dinner so he can hold his own piece of bread or eat cheerios while I spoon him some mashed vegetables.
Touch: Dirty feet and bruised legs. Sure sign that this kid is enjoying the summer!
My Instagram feed and blog, along with so many others, portray a pretty picture. Fun days at the beach, smiling babies, clean homes, awesome hair days (like the one above). Today I realized one reason why you see the good and not the bad is because when the day is going to shit or you are covered in shit (literally) there is no time to grab your camera. Back to the best Monday ever, warning: not for the squeamish…
Sorry to go all silent on you. After a great weekend with friends and a laid back Father’s Day, we entered one of our toughest weeks as parents yet, Oskar’s surgery. We knew for a while that he would most likely have surgery for a relatively common issue boys run into. I debated writing about it, since it’s quite personal. And I picture having a teenage boy one day being super pissed at me. But, let’s be honest… there aren’t that many of you reading, he won’t be that age for a long time, blogs will probably be replaced with like drone delivered holographic vlogs or some shit, and if by some chance this still exists a decade from now and he isn’t comfortable sharing – I’ll delete it. Sorry Oskar, here’s the story…
It’s Friday! Huzzah! This weekend we have a lot of great plans. Saturday we are meeting up with some friends from Traverse City at a potluck picnic in town. Maybe I’ll try a recipe from my new cookbook, Feeding the Whole Family, so many great recipes and good modifications for tiny eaters. Then that evening heading over to our favorite spot, Bill’s Beer Garden with some other friends (early so we can get space with our stroller brigade). And Sunday I’m super excited for the Pop Up Flea in Detroit. And of course a (responsibly) boozy brunch beforehand. Hope you have a great weekend planned for yourself!
Sight: This home calls for it’s own post, but I just couldn’t wait, it’s too good.
Smell: Hot sweaty weather is here, I just ordered this fancydeodorant to take a break from Tom’s for a while.
Taste: If you follow me on instagram, you’ll know that iced coffee season is my favorite season. While looking for the best way to make some cold brew I came across these awesome coffee guides from Blue Bottle Coffee.
Touch: Every year I lust over a crisp white summer dress, but never end up buying. This one will be hard to pass up.