Real Wedding Planning


Ah wedding planning {que sigh}… everyone talks about the stress of planning a wedding. And to be honest, I thought it was all a little silly. And to a certain extent, I still do, when that planning is referring to picking out flowers and linens and what foot to lead with when walking down the aisle. To me, those things are either fun to figure out, or I don’t care too much about them.

The real stress comes when you are to incorporate your family’s vision for your wedding or your vision brings “disappointment.” There are 100s of wedding blogs now, getting inspiration for reception decor has never been easier. And if you’re not a DIYer, there’s about a million wonderful planners to help your vision come to light. But what about when you’re raised religiously and now you’re not. When the thought of  a ceremony outside of a church literally brings tears to your mother and grandmother. When your brother tells you his daughters aren’t allowed to be your flower girls. You jump on a merry-go-round and play Ginuwine’s ‘Pony.

To me, the wedding is Bub and I stating that we are a family now, and we would love for those in attendance to be a part of our family.  While giving slight peak into the weirdness of this family they may be joining… you know, don’t want there to be any false assumptions…

photograph by the amazing Noa of Feather Love Photography


  • Lindsey

    just wanted to let you know that i love ya. keep your head high.

  • joan

    Yeah, what Lindsey said. (good juju inserted here)

  • Alissa

    Thinking of you! All that matters is that you and Bub are happy and that it represents what you are to each other. Honestly, the day of, no one is going to be thinking anything but wow, they are SO in love 🙂

  • Laura

    Just wanted to say that this post you wrote really resonates with me. I feel comforted that I’m not the only one who feels this way. Everything you wrote is exactly how I feel as well. It’s really hard when you have different visions from what your parents or (future) parents-in-law are expecting or hoping (especially when they’re paying for it). My fiancee and I talk about this a lot, and for us, it is a balance between us (our new family) starting together and a celebration of our current families. So it IS hard during this transition time for us creating our own family.

    Thank you for this post and congratulations!

  • claire

    Thanks for the support ladies! Laura, I’m sorry to hear you are in a similar position, but I’m glad that you now know you’re not alone! Congratulations on your engagement! Stay strong. 🙂

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